Summary
This video guides you through a relationship framework by having you rate three relationship categories. First, score their relationship with themselves on a 1 to 10 scale, emphasizing trust, respect, and love. Next, list and rank relationships with others, including important people at work, family, and determine which ones to support or work on. Finally, it introduces the harder third category: relationships with stuff and situations, covering environments and challenges, and notes that the real value comes from completing the accompanying worksheets and prompts.
Assessing Relationships Across 3 Areas
1. Introduce the three relationship categories 0:00
The video is part of the broader “great framework / great engine.”
The focus here is relationships, broken into three classifications:
Relationship with yourself
Relationship with others
Relationship with stuff or situations
The goal is to help you evaluate where you are now so you can decide what to improve.
2. Start with the hardest relationship: yourself 0:13
The first and most important category is your relationship with yourself.
This section is intentionally uncomfortable because discomfort can signal growth.
Use a 1–10 scale for each question.
No 7s: the point is to avoid “average” and get honest about where you really are.
3. Rate your self-trust 1:25
Ask: Do I trust myself?
Score yourself from 1 to 10.
Pay attention to the nuance in your answer:
Do you trust yourself all the time?
Some of the time?
Only in certain situations?
If you hesitate or question the question, that hesitation is useful data.
Write down:
Where you trust yourself most
Where you trust yourself least
4. Rate your self-respect 2:21
Ask: Do I respect myself?
Score yourself from 1 to 10.
This question can reveal areas for personal growth.
Key insight:
If you don’t trust yourself or respect yourself, it becomes much harder for other people to trust or respect you.
5. Rate your self-love 3:03
Ask: Do I love myself?
Score yourself from 1 to 10.
This is another important indicator of how you relate to yourself.
If self-love, self-trust, or self-respect are low, it will likely show up in your relationships with other people.
You do not need to fix everything right now, just identify what you want to work on.
6. List and rank your relationships with other people 3:46
Move to the second category: relationships with others.
Include anyone important to you, such as:
Spouse or partner
Boyfriend/girlfriend
Family members
Friends
Coworkers
Even pets, if they matter to you
Also include relationships you may have overlooked.
Rank each relationship on a 1–10 scale based on how important it is to you.
7. Decide which relationships to work on or maintain 4:20
After ranking your relationships, review them again and decide:
Which relationships do you want to work on?
Which ones do you want to continue supporting?
Which ones may need more attention or less attention?
This filter helps you make intentional choices about new and old relationships.
8. Evaluate your relationship with stuff and situations 4:44
The third category is your relationship with stuff or situations.
This includes:
Material things (watch, car, house, etc.)
Habits or comforts (drinking, smoking, eating, etc.)
Your environment
Situations like politics, work dynamics, stressors, hobbies, and other life circumstances
The Mike emphasizes this is judgment-free and about what works for you, not anyone else.
9. Use the worksheets to capture insights 5:56
The video is meant to lead into worksheets with prompts that help you uncover insights.
Pause the video and do the work, the real value comes from completing the exercises, not just watching.
The purpose is to help you get better results faster by understanding your relationships more clearly.
The next topic will be energy.
