One little thing can throw off your day at any moment. Here’s where Everyday Edge helps, from work to home to everything in between.
Do you ever get thrown off at work, at home, in the car or online? Maybe it was a lost deal, a kiddo’s meltdown, or bad news at 2 p.m. This article walks through the places Everyday Edge helps you handle stress, difficult people, and setbacks, from the big parts of your life down to the smallest moments, so you can see where handling one little thing sooner helps you win more.
Little things show up everywhere. So does your edge. The question is, does it hold you back or move you forward?
When I tell people about Everyday Edge, one of the first questions I get is, “Where does it work?” They want to know if it’s for work or for home, for sellers or for parents, for stress or for dealing with a difficult person.
The honest answer is yes to all of it. Everyday Edge works anywhere one little thing can throw off your day, and that turns out to be everywhere.
Think of a founder who gets a hard email from a board member. Think of a parent at bedtime, when one comment from her kiddo sets off the whole house. Think of a welder whose foreman changes the plan at 3 p.m. on a Friday. The people and the places are different, but the feeling is the same, and so is the way back.
So let’s walk through it. We’ll start with the big parts of life and work our way down to the smallest moments. I think you’ll see yourself somewhere along the way, and probably someone you love too.
The big parts of your life
Most of life happens in six places: your work, your home, your health, your money, your community, and your own head.
At work, it can be one email at 2 p.m. that you’re still thinking about at dinner.
At home, it can be socks on the floor that somehow turn into a standoff.
With your health, it can be skipping a workout, running low on sleep, or putting off a call to the doctor.
With money, some people check their bank app in the parking lot every single day, and some people never open the envelopes. Both are ways of getting thrown off by something that feels bigger than you.
In your community, it can be a disagreement at church, a school meeting, a neighbor, or the HOA. (Yes, at church.) And in your own head, it can be the voice that says you should have known better, or the big plan you start on Monday and drop by Thursday.
Everyday Edge helps with all of it, and it works the same way every time.
In every stage of (my) life
It also doesn’t matter how old you are. The little things change from one stage of life to the next, but the way back stays the same.
When you’re young and starting out, it might be feedback from your first boss that stings, or scrolling through everyone else’s vacation photos and feeling behind.
When you’re building a career and a home, it might be saying yes to everything and then paying for it somewhere else.
When there’s a new baby in the house, it might be a 3 a.m. argument over who did what, when both of you are too tired to think straight.
In the busy middle, with kiddos at home, parents who need help, and work at full speed, one little thing lands on top of an already big pile.
With teenagers, a conversation can blow up in about ten seconds. Getting curious about what they’re feeling usually works better than correcting them. I know that’s easier to say than to do.
In a blended family, or when kiddos live in two households, there are two sets of rules and one set of feelings.
During big changes like a layoff, a move, a divorce, an empty nest, or retirement, the questions get bigger. Who am I without my title?
During seasons of loss or illness, nothing has to be fixed fast. Some days, winning means getting through the day, and that counts.
And later in life, it’s about staying close to the people you love, enjoying the grandkids, and leaving something good behind.
At every level at work (in my experience)
At work, Everyday Edge helps no matter where you sit.
If you run a company or sit on its board, it might be a meeting that goes sideways, a co-founder you’ve been avoiding, or a hard conversation you keep putting off. It can be lonely at the top, and handling things sooner means making decisions sooner and earning trust faster.
If you lead other leaders, it might be a team that nods in the meeting and then does nothing afterward, or carrying a sales target that depends on a lot of people you don’t control.
If you manage a team, you’re squeezed from both sides, with pressure coming from above and needs coming from below. Feedback and one-on-one conversations are where that usually shows up.
If you’ve just become a leader, you’re going from doing the work yourself to guiding the people who do it, and that means letting go. I call that doing less, better.
If you do the work yourself, it might be a difficult boss, a coworker who takes the credit, a performance review, or a promotion that went to someone else.
If you work a shift, it might be a supervisor, a customer, or a schedule that changes every week.
If you work for yourself, or gig to gig, there’s nobody down the hall to talk things through, and slow months and busy months each bring their own kind of stress.
And if you’re a student or in training, it might be a teacher, a roommate, an exam, or the big question of what comes next.
Every side of the business from my view and experiences too
Every business has people who sell, people who buy, people who tell the story, people who serve customers, and people working behind the scenes. Each group has its own kind of little things.
If you sell for a living, it might be a deal you lose and then replay at the dinner table, a customer who stops answering your calls, or a boss who asks if you’ll hit your number. If you make forty calls a day, it’s shaking off every no before you dial the next number. If you lead a sales team, you carry a target that depends on other people doing their part. If you work with customers after the sale, it might be the angry call when a contract is up for renewal. And if you sell homes, insurance, or financial planning, you sit at kitchen tables with families making some of the biggest decisions of their lives.
If you buy for a company, you might be stuck between a salesperson who’s pushing hard and a boss who’s pushing harder. When a group of six people has to agree on a purchase, they usually want six different things. If you invest in companies or sit on a board, sometimes you have to have a hard talk with a founder you believe in. And all of us are buyers at some point, whether it’s a house, a car, or a college education.
If you work in marketing, communications, or product, it might be a campaign that flops, feedback on your design that stings, or an online comment that gets under your skin.
If you serve people for a living, you carry other people’s problems all day. That’s true for support teams, nurses, teachers, restaurant and retail workers, repair crews, first responders, veterans, lawyers, accountants, counselors, and clergy. Everyday Edge helps you leave that at work instead of carrying it home.
And if you work behind the scenes in operations, human resources, finance, legal, or IT, or as an assistant, you’re the one who deals with the missed shipment, the hardest conversations in the company, the budget request you have to say no to, and the computer system that goes down while everyone looks for someone to blame. Assistants often absorb everyone’s mood before 9 a.m. These are the people who keep everything running, and they rarely get thanked.
Every kind of work
Whether you work in an office, on a job site, in a hospital, or on a farm, the little things are the same even when the words are different.
At a desk, whether it’s in an office or at your kitchen table, it’s back-to-back meetings and an email you keep replaying for five hours.
On a job site, in a shop, in a warehouse, or behind the wheel of a truck, it’s a foreman who changes the plan, an injury, or a slow season when the work dries up. There’s a lot of pride in that world, and a lot of “tough it out.” Everyday Edge isn’t about being less tough. It’s about being tough and still getting home okay.
In nursing, teaching, childcare, office support, caregiving, or beauty and wellness, you’re the person everybody else leans on. Caring takes energy, and setting a boundary isn’t selfish.
On a farm, on a ranch, or in a small town, it’s the weather, prices, and markets you can’t control. Often it’s a family business, so Sunday dinner and Monday’s work end up being the same conversation. This may be the clearest picture of what Everyday Edge is about. You can’t control the weather. You can control what you do next.
If you run a small business, you’re on call all the time, payroll week keeps coming around, and your partners don’t always agree. If you drive for a gig company or work changing shifts, the schedule moves and there’s often no manager to talk it through with. Military families and veterans move a lot and come home to a different pace. And retirees and caregivers still carry plenty.
Down to the five-minute moments
Now let’s get as small as it gets. These are the five-minute moments, and every one of us has a long list of them.
An email lands the wrong way. A text doesn’t get answered. A meeting goes sideways, or a performance review doesn’t go the way you hoped. There’s the drive home, the dread you feel on Sunday night, checking the bank app in the parking lot, and waiting on a callback from the doctor’s office.
Sometimes it’s bad news, a lost deal, or a compliment you brush off because you don’t know what to do with it. Sometimes it’s an apology you owe, a no you need to say, or help you keep meaning to ask for. And sometimes it’s scrolling through someone else’s vacation photos, stepping on socks in the hallway, or lying awake at 2 a.m. replaying something you said.
Almost every one of those is over in about five minutes. But any one of them can end up taking over your whole day or longer.
The good moments count too
Here’s something that surprises people. Everyday Edge isn’t only for the hard moments. It works on the good ones too.
Think about a raise, a great meeting, a milestone for your kiddo, a wedding, a clean checkup, or a thank-you from a customer.
Gotta celebrate the wins! Small wins add up!
Good moments have patterns just like hard ones do. If you stop and ask yourself what you did, who helped, and what made it work, you can do it again on purpose. That’s how you win more. Not by luck, but by noticing what’s working and doing more of it.
What’s the same everywhere
After walking through all of that, here’s what I notice. Take away the job titles, the ages, and the places, and every one of those moments comes down to the same thing.
Everything in life is a relationship. You have a relationship with yourself, with the other people in your life, and with the things life puts in front of you, like your job, a goal, your money, or your health.
At any given moment, each of those relationships is in one of three places. It’s either stuck, thrown off, or going well.
With yourself, being stuck means waiting until you feel ready. Being thrown off sounds like “I should have known better.” And going well is a day when you showed up the way you meant to.
With other people, being stuck is a conversation you keep avoiding, or the same fight happening again. Being thrown off means someone hijacked your day. And going well is a relationship that’s working, which is worth noticing.
With the things life puts in front of you, being stuck is a decision you can’t make, or a goal that stalled. Being thrown off is bad news, a plan that changed, or a number you missed. And going well is a win you want to keep going.
That’s three kinds of relationships and three places each one can be, and it covers nearly every moment we’ve talked about.
So what do you do?
In all nine of those situations, the same three steps help. Notice it sooner. Get curious about what’s really going on. Then take one small step on purpose.
That’s how you win today. You don’t need a big plan or a big change. You need one small shift, made on purpose. Do it again tomorrow, and the day after that, and you start to win more.
And your win is yours to define. For one person it might be closing a big deal, and for another it might be getting through bedtime without a fight. Your win never has to cost someone else theirs.
You may be wondering what it looks like when it works.
I’ve had the privledge to advise and guide men and women. They are founders, presidents, VPs, sales leaders, sellers, customer success and account managers. Doctors, lawyers, CPAs. People in finance, legal, IT, and operations. Coaches, community leaders, gig workers, people between jobs, and people switching careers. Different roles, titles, responsibilities and situations. Yet the path to get the win requires the same steps.
Here are some real results from my individual coaching clients, who used the same skills Everyday Edge teaches. Small shifts add up to results like these.
Career and Promotion
An individual contributor was promoted to VP of Sales.
A lawyer finally broke a pattern that had already cost him two other careers.
Negotiation and Pay
An account manager increased their bonus by $10,000.
A VP of Customer Success negotiated a stronger base salary and bonus.
Marriage and Family
A CPA saved his marriage and got his $15,000 retainer back from a lawyer, avoiding further financial impact.
An international coach re-engaged her husband, who had been growing resentful of her business.
A data analyst defused a family blowup before it wrecked their vacation.
Leadership and Culture
A sales VP became a company president and now uses the same skills to run the whole leadership team.
A chief of staff broke the tension and silos between two teams at a major company.
Business and Community
Several clients launched new businesses, with real support from family and former employers.
Another pivoted their career into a meaningful, rewarding role as a community activist, helping depolarize America.
These are results from individual coaching clients, not promises or typical outcomes. Every situation is different.
Where I use it (every day)
I use it everywhere myself. I’ve been the seller who replays a lost deal at the dinner table, and the leader who carries a sales number around in his head. I’m a dad to two, a bonus dad to four, and a grandfather everyone calls Pop D.
Some moments are bigger than a little thing. One New Year’s Day, I got a text telling me to meet the next day, and I was let go from my job. Everyday Edge wouldn’t have stopped that from happening, but it’s built for what comes after.
That’s the whole point. You can’t control everything that happens. You can get better at what happens next.
Sixty-second reflection
Okay, you made it this far, so here’s the payoff. It takes about sixty seconds.
Think back over everything we just walked through and ask yourself where you saw yourself. Was it at work, at home, or both?
Pick the one place where one little thing keeps showing up for you. Then finish this sentence, out loud or on paper: “When _______ happens at ______, I get thrown off.”
That’s it. The next time it happens, do one thing and notice it. That’s already an edge.
Quick answers
Where does Everyday Edge work? Anywhere one little thing can throw off your day. That includes work, home, health, money, and community, at every stage of life and in every kind of job.
Is it only for stress at work? No. It works the same at work, at home, and everywhere in between. The moment changes, but the way back stays the same.
Do I need a certain job or age? No. If you ever get thrown off and want to get back faster, it’s for you.
How do I start? Pick the one place where one little thing keeps showing up. The next time it happens, notice it sooner, and then take one small step on purpose.
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This is the third piece in a short series. If you missed the first two, here’s why I built Everyday Edge, and what it is and who it’s for.
Where does it work? (this article)
Build Your Everyday Edge in 4 hours (the program)